{"id":678,"date":"2010-03-06T12:37:53","date_gmt":"2010-03-06T07:07:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/naveen.bachwani.com\/dad\/?p=678"},"modified":"2010-03-06T12:37:53","modified_gmt":"2010-03-06T07:07:53","slug":"building-self-esteem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/naveen.bachwani.com\/beingdad\/2010\/03\/building-self-esteem\/","title":{"rendered":"Building Self Esteem"},"content":{"rendered":"

Babycenter posted an excellent article on “Ten ways to build your child’s self-esteem<\/a>” in which it detailed simple strategies that each of us can use to boost our child’s confidence.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The suggestions ranged from giving unconditional love to supporting healthy risks.\u00a0 What I found most noteworthy, however, was how the writeup distinguished between “Praise” and “Encouragement”:<\/p>\n

Provide encouragement.<\/strong> Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, “I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!” Encouragement means acknowledging progress\u00a0– not just rewarding achievement. So if your child is struggling with a math problem, say: “You’re trying very hard and you almost have it!” instead of “Not like that. Let me do it.”<\/p>\n

There’s a difference between praise and encouragement. One rewards the task while the other rewards the person (“You did it!” rather than “I’m proud of you!”). Praise can make a child feel that he’s only “good” if he does something perfectly. Encouragement, on the other hand, acknowledges the effort. “Tell me about the game. I saw you really hustling out there” is more helpful than saying, “You’re the best player on the team.” Too much praise can sap self-esteem because it can create pressure to perform and set up a continual need for approval from others. So dole out the praise judiciously and offer encouragement liberally; it will help your child grow up to feel good about himself.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Don’t give this one<\/a> a miss.\u00a0 It has long term implications for your child’s Life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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